God’s Not Dead!

“IN GOD WE STILL TRUST, here in America.  He’s the one we turn to every time the going gets rough.  He is the source of all our strength, the one who watches over us.  Here in America, in God we still trust.”-Diamond Rio

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

This verse came to mind for me today as I was at See You At The Pole at my old high school.  At first, I was incredibly disappointed, as I was the only one there for an hour…then I realized I showed up over an hour early.  So, upon realizing my mistake, I walked inside to warm my hands up, and when I came out, there were seven or eight people standing around the flag pole, including several leaders.  Within minutes, the area around the flag pole had more than four times that many people in it!  It was a beautiful thing to see!

There are rumors that the youth of the Church are leaving, for a number of reasons.  But you couldn’t tell it today.  Having been at See You At The Pole several times before, this had to have been the biggest crowd I’ve ever seen/been a part of.  Kids and youth leaders alike gathered around, sang worship songs, prayed over each other and the school, and thanked God for the opportunity to gather together in worship!

What surprised (and touched) me the most was that these kids were not shy about their faith.  When they were praying, they prayed that each student would live their lives like Christ.  One young lady even mentioned that (para), “People are probably going to ask you what you were doing today around a flag pole; tell them.”  She wasn’t afraid of people pointing or asking questions.  She was strong in her faith, and it showed.

That’s all for now, guys.  I’ll post again soon!  Until then!

God Bless



“Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby…” (pt. 1)

There is such a broad range of topics surrounding sex in religion, so we’re going to break it up into two parts: what we should do personally, and what we should teach our kids.  This first post will be about how we should handle sex as individuals.

Before you read any of this, understand a few things:

1) This isn’t a rant, merely observations and discussions I have had about sex and sexual activity.
2) I am, by the most common definition, a virgin (by choice).
3) I have no intentions of saying anybody is in the wrong or right.

I ran into a friend of mine yesterday who I went to school with at Longwood.  She now works for the school newspaper, and was telling me about how things were going.  One of the things she brought up was a column devoted entirely to sexual education.  When I initially saw the first article, I thought it was simply a one-time thing…a very…disturbing…albeit “informative”…article.  But apparently I was wrong.

Now, by “sexual education” I don’t mean how to be safe about it, or to wait until you find the perfect person.  And if there were any articles like that, they were few, and I don’t remember them.  No, instead, the majority of these articles look as if they could have come from Cosmopolitan.  It’s awful.  Tips on how to give BJs, that it’s better to have sex on your period because you can use it as lube…people, I can’t make this stuff up.

So that got me thinking about something…what has sex turned into in society?  Society is split on the topic, and the rift seems to get continuously bigger.  It seems the more people start to look at sex as an everyday no-big-deal thing, the stronger the protests become.  And, of course, the stronger the protests become, the stronger the supporters of sex push back, and it’s a big circle.

So let’s look at a few arguments:

Here’s a blog about a girl who says she regrets waiting until marriage.

For those of you who do not wish to read the article, however short, I’ll give you a quick rundown.  This girls gives three reasons why she regretted saving herself for marriage:

1) Your wedding night does not necessarily translate to “You are ready for sex night.”
2) It makes you get married very young without living together beforehand.
3) A decade or so of sexual restraint is mentally difficult to get over.

Now, before I respond, I will say that I am going with the assumption that Christians do (statistically more men than women) masturbate.  This is because of both statistical research and personal experience.

1) Your wedding night does not necessarily translate to “You are ready for sex night.”

This is true.  But nobody told you you had to have sex the night of your marriage.  On the contrary, some people deliberately say not to have sex the night of your wedding, because, on top of not knowing what’s going on, you’re stressed and exhausted from getting married.

Now, this girl says she didn’t know what to do and had never seen a penis before.  But the fact is, hundreds of thousands of people have also not had sex before their wedding night, and don’t know what to do.  Here’s the thing about sex: everyone is different, and having sex with anyone is a learning experience.  You can’t dive under the sheets the first night and expect to have flawless animal sex.  Many people I have talked to that have been having sex for YEARS say they still learn something about their partner and/or themselves.  Sex, especially with a person that loves you and will have the patience to learn with you, is not supposed to be perfect immediately.

2) It makes you get married very young without living together beforehand.

Does it, though?  I am a virgin, and I have no intentions of rushing into marriage to have sex.  Now, I know many people (being from a town with a private Christian university) who do rush into marriage.  The “joke” (and I put that in quotes because it’s based on truth) is “a ring by spring or your money back”.  All joking aside, yes, there are going to be Christians who rush into marriage so they can have sex.  But a marriage isn’t about sex.  In fact, it disturbs me greatly thinking that there are people who put sex before emotional maturity in a marriage.  Especially Christians, who are taught the importance of a Christ-based relationship.

So for the people who want to get married just to have sex: As bad as this sounds, if you’re so desperate to get between the sheets, and you’re engaged, go ahead and have sex.  Because if you’re not emotionally ready for marriage, it’s going to be a disaster.  And the cost, shame, and emotional problems that can all come from getting divorced, are going to be a lot worse than if you have sex before you get married.

Otherwise, just suck it up.  I’ve waited 22 years, have had numerous girlfriends, and am still a virgin.  Several of my girlfriends even spent the night in bed with me and we didn’t do anything.  This may sound rant-ish, but people put too little emphasis on self-control.  You have the ability to NOT have sex before marriage.  Just.  Say.  No.

3) A decade or so of sexual restraint is mentally difficult to get over.

Yes.  There are a lot of stories about sexual problems that have arisen from a man or woman being told that sex was bad, and suddenly when they get married they can’t transition immediately into “oh, it’s okay now.”  But what we need to do about this will be talked about in “Part 2”.

Here’s another blog curious about why we should save ourselves until marriage.

Now, from the perspective of a Christian couple that has sex.  I had a friend of mine tell me that he and his girlfriend were having sex before marriage.  He went on to explain that he talked to a pastor about it, who reminded him that the ceremonies in the Bible were not like those of today.  In Biblical times, there would be a signing of a legal document, consummation of the marriage, proof that the woman was a virgin, and then a feast.  My friend’s pastor said he was not against sex when the couple was committed to each other and loved in each in a Christ-like way.

Personally, I agree with the pastor.  I believe that if a couple is deeply in love, and committed to each other in a Christ-based love (preferably engaged to each other), if they want to have sex, they can.  As for what I will do if I get engaged, I will have to worry about that when the time comes.  If it feels right, I may have sex with my fiance.  If not, I’ll wait until we’re married.

At this point, I’m almost done, but I know some of you are deeply taken aback and thinking I’m a hypocrite, responding to the 3 reasons to have sex before marriage in the way that I did.  But I will respond to that by saying that I was simply finding the flaws in the girl’s arguments.

My last point (for now, at least) is why you should save yourself.  Unfortunately, I can’t re-find the post, but if I do, I will edit this and put it in.  But the point is, there was a post by a Christian woman condemning Christians who were hateful about saving yourself for marriage, and instead offering a different, more personal reason.  She said she saved herself not because the Bible told her to, not for her spouse.  She saved herself because she wanted to.  It’s as simple as that.  Save yourself because you want to.  Because you want to feel closer to God (the Bible emphasizes purity in many forms, and I feel it can be summed up in Matthew 5:8, which says “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.”).  Again, however, that’s leaning into Part 2’s topic, which I will post within 2-3 days hopefully.


Let me know what you think, guys!  God Bless!


Politics In Religion?

Hey guys!  Wow, I never post to this site.  I need to start keeping up with it…

Anyway, I’ve been seeing some things recently that have made me think.  I follow the “Being Liberal” page on Facebook.  At first, it contained some semi-legitimate information.  However, over the last month or two, 50% of the posts have been saying all Republicans are Christians, and taking Bible verses out of context in order to back up their beliefs that Conservatives should be helping other people (a.k.a. the crisis in Iraq, the border crisis, etc).

What these posters don’t seem to understand is that not all Republicans are Christian, to begin with.  There are Republicans who are Republican because their core political beliefs just so happen to line up that way.  But even if all Republicans were Christians, the way society and government work, if we were to follow these often misinterpreted scriptures, we would be living in a nation that is being taken advantage of–economically, spiritually, and physically.

Republicans have minds of their own, and no Christian is perfect.  While we try to follow what the Bible says, we often fall short of listening to its every word.  But people calling us out for it for their own political agenda is not appropriate.

Now, before the liberals looking at this get their panties twisted, I will say conservatives are likewise guilty of bring religion into politics, primarily in the issue of homosexual marriage.  I’m not trying to beat a dead horse by saying this, but even as a Christian, I believe that homosexuals should be allowed to get married if they want.  Love the sinner, hate the sin.  I recently had a conversation with a very conservative Southern Baptist who made an excellent argument.  He said it’s important to love homosexuals, no matter what.  He even said (and I completely agree) that it is inappropriate to kick anyone out of the church for their sexual preference.  HOWEVER, we have a responsibility to call them out IF they start to preach that homosexuality is not a sin.

So where am I going with that last paragraph?  Conservatives and anti-gay believers should not bring the Bible (something that not everyone believes in) into the politics involving marriage, etc.

In short……………………………………and some of you may not agree with me…………………………religion should not belong in the realm of politics.  Don’t want to marry someone of the same sex?  Don’t.  Don’t want to get an abortion?  Don’t.  But there may be other people that do.  I personally support homosexual marriage, but I’m not a homosexual.  I support a woman’s a right to abortion, though I personally do not believe women should get abortions with the exceptions of extreme cases such as rape and/or being fatal for the mother and/or child.  But that’s just my personal belief, and other people feel differently, so I’m not going to take away their right to make that decision.

Religion and politics, in a nation of many different religions, is going to cause unnecessary turmoil and disagreement which, today–where terrorist organizations are killing anyone and everyone, riots due to police ‘scandals’ are going on, and the government can’t agree on anything anyway–we just can’t afford to have.

God Bless, guys!